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May 18th, 2015
Important reminder - please read!
This is going out to all of my closest family and friends and some acquaintances, so some of you already know this, since I sent this out in an e-mail, and posted it on Facebook, and now here on LiveJournal. It bears repeating.
A few days ago some friends of mine (of whom it must be said up front ARE ALL OK, the PEOPLE AND THE PETS), lost their home to a 3 alarm fire. The dad was out of town for work, and the mom of their three children (all four of whom were home), were in their basement when the smoke detector went off. The door in the basement that they tried was on fire, and thankfully the door on the first floor was accessible, they all had had fire safety training (even the dog), and they got the people and the pets safely out.
I went out and got a replacement battery for our smoke detector, which had a dead battery when I first started moving in to the house, and which I had set aside to get a new battery, and then promptly forgot about it. I'm not stupid, and I've known the importance of smoke alarms for years. We have a CO detector, and now we have a working smoke detector. But I am forgetful and the move (as most of you know) was stressful, and difficult, and felt like it would never end. That's no excuse for this lapse.
My friend credits their smoke detector with saving their lives.
Please, please, please, check the batteries on your smoke and CO detectors, and if you don't have those, please GET THEM. I already had one friend several years back die in a fire, and I never want to hear about another again.
Thank you, and pass this message on to as many people as you can.
Tags: fire safety Current Mood:
, life-saving reminder
May 22nd, 2013
Nancy Lebovitz's 60th Birthday party at Balticon
I'm hosting a 60th birthday party for Nancy Lebovitz, at the consuite at Balticon this weekend, on Sunday night, May 26th, from 9pm until midnight. I'm volunteering at the con suite, which is the only way I'm able to attend the con this year. I invite all of Nancy's friends to join us, and if you can, please bring some food and/or drink to share. If you can't manage the money, I TOTALLY get it, so please bring yourself and your smile :)
Nancy knows about the party. I wasn't sure if she would like a surprise party, so erring on the side of caution, I cleared it with her, and she sounds pleased about it. Feel free to bring instruments, songs, stories, anything else you think that Nancy would enjoy.
RSVP is not necessary, but it would be helpful to know about how many people plan to attend. Thanks.
June 27th, 2012
Request for ride and room for me at Concertino this weekend
Hi - last minute, of course, but I've decided that if it's at all possible, I want to attend Concertino this weekend. I need a ride (I'm happy to share driving) and a room share (floor space is fine). I'm in SE Baltimore, right near the tunnels and bridge. Please call me, as getting online right now is difficult. (410) 285-0510
Current Music: air conditioner
November 26th, 2011
Random thoughts about death and coping with loss
I sympathize and pray comfort for those of my friends in the filk community who have lost loved ones recently.
I just wanted to share some random thoughts I have about death, loss, and helping friends and family cope when someone they love dies.
When you just don't know what to say, one of the best things to say is "I just don't know what to say," It's a start.
What can you do? Hugs are good. Offers of help are good. Even if you feel like you want to avoid cliches, sometimes they are all you can think of. It's ok to just say "I'm so sorry for your loss."
Someone who lost her husband at a young age said to me "What I have learned from this is that it just f***ing sucks." Yeah. Damn.
It's hard to know sometimes how a person will respond to "They're in a better place now." It might provide comfort to one person, but just make another one angry. It's perhaps more prudent to just listen instead of talking when you don't know.
When someone young dies by their own hand, even if I barely knew them, it makes me feel such regret that I didn't get to know them, that I wasn't there to share with them my experiences of depression and thoughts of suicide, and how I got past those terrible times. I wish that I had been able to provide hope and help. But to an extent, that is a sin of pride. We all want to think that if we only could have figured out "the right thing to say" it would have prevented this from happening. But you can do and say all the "right things" in the world, and still not be able to prevent a suicide. If the person isn't able to take it in, you can't make them. I know that those left behind feel rage, guilt, and terrible sadness. I share in those feelings, and I can also feel a great deal of sympathy. There but for the grace of God go I.
There are many people whom I never knew, who have passed away, and then I read all of these wonderful memories shared by their friends, here on Live Journal, and on Facebook, and I think "Wow, I wish that I had known him/her, and now I never will get to." I now make more of an effort to talk to people whose faces are familiar to me from years in fandom, but I have never spoken to before. I also accept the fact that I will never get to meet a lot of people. And it's OK. I'm so grateful for the folks I do get to meet and spend time with.
I have always been blessed with friends, but in recent years I have begun to make the effort to tell people that I love them, and appreciate them, some more often than I used to, and some for the first time. I want them to know it beyond a doubt. I realize that you never know when the last time you get to spend with someone will be, and it's good to take every opportunity for a smile, a hug, an expression of appreciation and gratitude that you can.
Even if we believe that death of each individual is "God's will", if we believe in an afterlife, that we will be with all of our dear departed ones in someplace heavenly, it still hurts to experience the loss of that person right here, right now. It's important to acknowledge those feelings.
There is no one "right way" to grieve, no one "right amount of time" to grieve. There is only one way to get to the healing, and that is to go through the pain. Thank goodness we have loved ones to share and to care, to help us in our darkest hours, to provide solace, listening ears, steadfast shoulders, encircling arms. Because really, it just f***king sucks.
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Current Music: in my mind "We may never pass this way again."
July 6th, 2011
Some reflections on filk after Contata 2011, resonding to Aya's postings
This was originally intended to be a comment to Aya in her "Filking and Frolicking" LJ, but it was too long. Oh my, Sue Cochran has a lot to say? How unusual for her!
Anyway, here are my reflections about the definition of filk and some other responses to what Aya and some other folks wrote in her journal.( definingCollapse )
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Current Music: Air conditioner,cat talking
March 16th, 2011
Nancy Lebovitz needs someone to work for her @ Lunacon this weekend
I'm posting this wherever I can to see if someone is available and willing to work for Nancy Lebovitz at Lunacon this weekend. If so, please call me asap and I will let you know what all is involved. Phone is better than e-mail - my home phone is (410)284-2129. Thank you very much!
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Current Music: CNN
December 5th, 2010
I'm feeling grateful for my kitties today!
I haven't posted here about my cats in WAY too long. Our household of kitties is down from 4 to 2. The user pic was taken in 2006, shortly after acquiring our 4th cat, Cloudy. All 4 cats were on our bed, in the apartment we had back then, in SE Baltimore.
We had to re-home our male, Cloudy (grey short-hair around 5 years old), this past July due to territorial issues (he was terrorizing our Niles), and our Louisa (we had her for 11 years, she was in her teens)had to be euthanized this past September. :(
We now have Niles who is 11, and Kuro who is around 6 or 7. Niles is our Maine Coon beautiful boy, and Kuro is our pretty black mama cat with a white star on her chest. She came to us already pregnant in 2004. She went into labor in my lap, gave birth to 4 kittens on my bed (which I took photos of and also videotaped), and then overnight she had 2 more kittens in my closet. That was on December 18th of 2004. We were fortunate in being able to place all 6 kittens with friends.
I am so grateful for my furry babies. Niles is my son Matthew's kitty, and he also sometimes comes upstairs to spend time with me. Kuro is my cat, she pretty much follows me around the house and wants to be wherever I am. When I am away, my boyfriend Gerry says that the cats follow him around and meow at him, as if to say, "Where is the woman?" When I come home after a few days or more away, Kuro greets me at the front door, throws herself down on the floor, and grabs onto the carpet and pulls herself along, stretching out so I can give her tummy rubs. Both Niles and Kuro are such loves. They sometimes will groom and/or cuddle up to nap together, but sometimes the grooming sessions quickly devolve into skirmishes. Niles almost always loses these, and ends up being the one run off the bed.
I'm going to attach some photos of these goofballs. Enjoy!
Current Music: none
December 2nd, 2010
Expansion of marriage rights, some more thoughts on marriage and child-rearing
I just took a look at my last post (about gay and poly marriage rights) again, and had some more things to say about that. ( Read more...Collapse )
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Current Music: none
Need a home for Cloudy cat
I sent out an e-mail and a Facebook posting, so if you got that, you can skip this. If not, please read, and help if you can. Thanks.( Read more...Collapse )
Current Music: Gerry tapping on his keyboard (Playing minesweeper)
August 5th, 2010
My thoughts about marriage rights
Nancy Lebovitz has a button that says "Respect traditional marriage; one robot, one octopus." I've been thinking about that for a while since Shore Leave in June, and I felt that I'd like to express my thoughts and feelings (regarding that snarky sentiment but in a more serious manner) about marriage rights. After noodling around with these thoughts for a while, I came up with the following (which is probably, unfortunately, too long for a button, but maybe Nancy can tweak it down to something more manageable).
"I DO respect traditional marriage. That's why I want the same rights for my LGBT and poly friends - the legal protections, access to sharing in decision-making and visitation in medical situations, and the joy of standing up before friends and family and making vows to acknowledge and celebrate their relationship(s)."
Current Music: Air conditioner